For few , the title is self explanatory . The sense of in-security is often felt by lot of people and is more prevalent during the teens and early twenties; after that , people just learn to deal with it I guess. So let’s examine this small yet trivial issue. In any form of a relationship where one gives a damn about the other , some one could develop a sense of insecurity due to variety of reasons. It could be the distance . It could be their own nature. It could be circumstances . it could even happen because of envy .
Be whatever may the reason , when such a condition develops , expectations out of the relationship rise up. Attention to trivial details become vital and sometimes , the ones you care about cannot be all that you want them to be. What happens then in the relationship decides the fate of it. Some bonds bound by blood endure the cataclysms but others don’t. Be that as it may , I have always wondered how to get over feeling insecure..
Besides reminding ourselves that our worst fears when insecure cannot be true , the only other better way is to stop thinking about it and focus on something else in life. But this is something that guys can be better at than girls can be, I guess. True control of your heart comes by treating it like a child. By saying ‘things will be OK’ , couple of times , one can actually feel better. The trick in dealing with insecurity lies in it as well. Being immersed in another activity that completely gains our attention is yet another way to feel better .And when one feels better , sense of insecurity starts to fade away. If the other’s action is the reason for the sense of insecurity, confrontation is never always the right solution.
Our sense of insecurity often rises from our primal instinct of survival. Our instincts’ perception of a threat in a relationship that we value so dearly, often springs up in the form of insecurity. Sometimes circumstances could merely trigger such an emotional state while other times, it often happens when the other gives up on the bond they share. With patience and support, it is easier to get through the sense of insecurity that arises from the earlier cause than the latter one, for apparent reasons. when someone gives up on the bond they share, be it for simpler reasons, or complicated , rather than confrontation , space and time has a better chance of getting back the bond. For things lost are better forgotten, than missed; And after who-knows-how-many years, it may present itself when the time is right.
To understand why it affects people, lets look at what being human is all about.
We as humans are social beings. We like being social. We do almost everything in the name of the society and to be accepted by it. It is this need that drives us to be more respectful of a valuable relationship. (Yes..No wonder Love stories are common themes accepted across the world across generations!!) However , when our social obligations take a sidestep to personal well-being, some one always gets hurt. And with Mother Nature enjoying her Game of Survival , designed quite sophisticated for humans , there is not much else we could do. The way things appear for a new born child has become quite similar to a new-born deer in wilderness. With the vile senses of animals etched deep within us, I have always wondered what being human is all about.What is that vital factor that separates us from the rest of them? If we are just like the savages in the wild , only with superior intelligence , is being human just a Nature’s way to make the Super-Animal?
But it is at such times, that I could listen to my heart-beat.It is what that sets us apart.Certainly not our heart-beat, but our heart.It is exactly that vital factor that makes us humans.
The ability to feel happiness or sadness or any emotion makes us better. But it has also made us vulnerable. There are millions of people who let themselves be driven by a singular emotion and lead a ruined life. I believe that one must master his emotions to understand his true potential. How best to master the emotion? I believe that being in equilibrium will make us the master of our emotions.Its what Master Shifu says ‘Inner Peace’. With happiness keeping sadness in check and with light keeping the darkness in check, its our heart and emotions that keep the animal in us, in check. For people who struggle to deal with pain and rather emotionally turn off risk losing their equilibrium and so, could never be at peace. While some people are in-sensitive to certain emotions because of their attitude/environment, some people are sensitive and it is vital to deal with them.
For love of God, lets not make our loved ones feel insecure.